Post Valentine’s Day, I was thinking about how a long time ago, I was driving on 285 headed to school in Dunwoody, GA and a small voice whispered to me, “Where is the Love?”. I prayed, studied, wrote and often spoke about how love seems non-existent and this was back in 2005-2006. Now in 2022, I’m still asking the same question. In a world where gender is being questioned and the value of family in a traditional sense has diminished. God gave us all the freedom of choice to love and we have chosen to love ourselves through fear, pride and lust more than we love Him!
I’m guilty of falling for the hype when I had marital issues and the whole time it was really about loving me first and setting boundaries. I have lived over 40yrs and will be 50 yrs old in a couple of years and I’m just now understanding how to love myself. I’ve worked with so many people that gave their lives to their spouse and children without regard to themselves because of being taught that this is what life is about. The sacrifice and love of others over yourself. The whole-time losing bits and pieces of you building regrets, guilt, shame and every other emotion that comes out of living a life without true purpose.
We were not put on this earth to grow up, go to school, go to work, get married and have kids. We were not put on this earth to grow up, go to school, go to work and build a lonely empire. We were not put on this earth to grow up, go to school, go to work and take care of our entire families down to our 5th cousin on auntie Betty’s side. The point is that we were all born with a purpose. Everything else is just apart of life.
Love has everything to do with God and God is Love! But, when we don’t activate the God in us, we perish from lack of knowledge to serve in places beyond ourselves and our families. So many people continue to perish in family drama, trauma and mess… Not understanding that family over everything is not true if it prevents you from being your best and serving God. I’m not talking about religion or going to church (7) days a week. I’m talking about that burning fire deep inside of you that’s telling you to do something, but F.E.A.R. (Fighting Emotional Ancestral Remnants) blocks it. The THEY say’s, the haters, the one’s that didn’t understand your fire. You gave them power over your life not knowing that each day your F.E.A.R.’s is winning, slowly becoming the walking dead as your spiritual flame continues to dim.
I challenge each and everyone of you reading this to take a long look in the mirror and ask yourself are you living a life full of purpose and fulfillment. If not, ask yourself why? I’m willing to bet that self-love is an issue despite how well you dress up and all the material things that you may have. How many times have you given in to others for the sake of love, but failed to love yourself? It’s not being selfish; it’s being true to yourself. Love shouldn’t cost you…. YOU! And, the other side of that, it is that love shouldn’t allow F.E.A.R. to stop the one’s you love from being who they are. What’s Love Got to Do with It? EVERYTHING!